A Metropolitan Police officer is under investigation after a video surfaced showing him allegedly advising a group of Nigerian women not to report their husbands to the police in cases of domestic abuse but to “manage it.”
The footage, originally filmed in 2018 at Divine Restoration International Church in Camberwell, London, recently reappeared on social media, sparking outrage.
The video shows a police staff member addressing an audience composed mainly of women, with three officers present.
The officer, speaking in both English and Yoruba, a Nigerian language, discusses various social issues, including knife crime and family dynamics.
The officer is heard allegedly stating that Nigerian women, after arriving in the UK, often begin acting “rudely” toward their husbands and should not involve the police in domestic disputes but instead “manage it.”
The Metropolitan Police have since referred the footage to their standards unit for review.
Afruca, a children’s safeguarding organisation, has condemned the officer’s comments and filed a formal complaint with the Met.
In its letter, Afruca argued that the officer’s statements effectively encouraged women to remain in abusive situations and discouraged them from seeking police protection.
Debbie Ariyo, Chief Executive of Afruca, expressed her anger over the video: “[The officer said], ‘Do not call the police on your husband, but manage it.’ When I heard it, I was livid. Like, what do you mean? So if a man is abusing the woman…she shouldn’t call the police because…the man will be removed from the home and…it will be her fault.”
Ariyo criticised the officer’s remarks, stating, “If a woman is being abused, you’re saying that women shouldn’t seek police protection. That was really bad of them, that’s just like minimising these issues in our communities. That Nigerians don’t really matter. Even children are victims in the home when domestic violence is going on.”
She also raised concerns about the broader issue of violence against Black women, noting that in 2022, nine out of 21 femicide victims recorded by the Metropolitan Police were Black, a disproportionately high figure.
“We’ve been talking about violence against women but we haven’t talked about violence against Black women. Women in African and Caribbean communities,” Ariyo added. “To hear a police officer who should understand the UK Domestic Violence Act of 2021, telling women that they shouldn’t call the police on their husbands… it’s counterproductive.”
Detective Chief Superintendent Seb Adjei-Addoh confirmed that the video had been referred to the Met’s professional standards team. “The comments made by the member of the police staff categorically do not represent the position of the Met in relation to domestic abuse and are wrong,” he said. “There are no circumstances where it would be appropriate for a victim-survivor of domestic abuse not to report it to the police if they feel able to do so.”
Adjei-Addoh added that the Met has developed various dedicated teams and strategies to combat domestic abuse and support victims, working in partnership with local authorities and charities.
“The video has been referred to our professional standards unit to assess and consider what action is to be taken,” Adjei-Addoh continued. “Africa and other charities like them carry out invaluable work in the domestic abuse space, and I understand the concern this matter has caused.”
He also expressed his willingness to speak with those affected by the incident to reassure them of the Met’s commitment to tackling domestic abuse and protecting those at risk.