In today’s evolving landscape of love and intimacy, relationships are taking on new shapes, challenging conventional ideas of exclusivity and long-term commitment. Open relationships, once considered fringe, are slowly making their way into mainstream discussions, igniting debates about whether they represent a new norm or a lingering taboo.
What Are Open Relationships?
The term “open relationship” typically refers to a romantic arrangement in which individuals are free to engage in emotional or sexual connections with multiple people, all with the mutual consent and understanding of everyone involved.
The core distinction between open relationships and infidelity lies in the element of honesty. Unlike secret affairs that involve deception, open relationships are built on transparent communication and trust. Each partner knows and agrees to the boundaries of the relationship.
This non-traditional approach to love comes in various forms. Some individuals have a primary partner—whether a spouse or long-term lover—but engage in occasional sexual encounters outside the relationship. Others maintain more than one long-term, committed relationship simultaneously, while still others form group marriages where several adults live together and share both emotional and sexual bonds.
In essence, the key principle of an open relationship is the acknowledgement that one partner cannot always fulfill all emotional, sexual, or companionship needs.
Why Do Some People Choose Open Relationships?
There’s no singular answer to why people seek out non-monogamy, just as there’s no definitive reason why someone may identify as gay, straight, or bisexual. For many, the appeal of monogamy lies in its promise of security, stability, and a deeper emotional connection with one partner.
A monogamous relationship can offer protection from sexually transmitted infections and the simplicity of focusing on one person. Many people also find the exclusive nature of such relationships easier to manage within their busy lives.
However, not everyone feels satisfied with monogamy. Some people discover, after trying to live monogamously, that this model does not meet their emotional or physical needs. The idea that one person can provide all the love, companionship, and sexual fulfilment for an entire lifetime seems unrealistic for some. These individuals might turn to “serial monogamy,” moving from one relationship to another, often ending each due to a lack of compatibility.
For these people, open relationships offer a potential solution to common relationship pitfalls. Instead of ending a relationship because of a lack in one area, they choose to supplement their connection with additional relationships. This approach allows them to avoid the disillusionment often experienced in traditional monogamy, where expectations of lifelong satisfaction from a single partner can lead to disappointment and dissatisfaction.
The Appeal: More or Different?
At the heart of open relationships, people generally seek either “More” or “Different.”
More: Some individuals are satisfied with their primary relationship but want a little extra—more romance, more time, or more sexual experiences. They are content with their partner but desire an additional element that might be missing, whether it’s more attention, physical intimacy, or even new adventures.
Different: Others seek a type of connection that their current partner cannot offer. This could be something as simple as differing sexual preferences or interests—one partner might not enjoy camping while the other loves it. The desire for “Different” might also stem from a longing for a new kind of romantic or sexual connection, whether that’s with someone of a different gender, someone with shared interests, or simply for the novelty that variety brings.
These dynamics allow individuals to continue valuing their primary relationship while fulfilling needs elsewhere, maintaining both stability and excitement in their romantic lives.
Swinging and Open Marriages
One of the more commonly recognized forms of open relationships is swinging. Typically practiced by heterosexual couples, swinging involves engaging in sexual encounters with other couples or individuals, often in a party or social setting.
For some, this means only having sex with others in the presence of their spouse, while others allow for casual sexual relationships outside of their primary partnership without emotional attachment. Swinging often operates on the understanding that while sex outside the marriage is permitted, emotional involvement is not.
This clear distinction between physical and emotional fidelity can offer couples the freedom to explore sexually without jeopardizing their primary bond. Still, the idea of separating love and sex remains controversial for many.
Is Society Ready to Accept Open Relationships?
While open relationships are gaining visibility, especially with more people discussing their experiences on social media, they still face significant stigma. Many people continue to view lifelong monogamy as the ideal relationship model, often equating multiple partners with a lack of commitment or moral failure. Religious and cultural norms, particularly in Western societies, tend to uphold monogamy as the highest form of romantic connection.
That said, as conversations about sexual orientation, gender identity, and relationship structures become more open and diverse, non-traditional arrangements like open relationships are becoming less taboo. Younger generations, in particular, are more open to questioning established norms around love, marriage, and sex, leading to a growing acceptance of alternative relationship styles.
However, societal shifts in this area remain gradual. Open relationships challenge deep-seated ideas about ownership, jealousy, and the sanctity of marriage, and while they may be gaining ground, they are far from universally accepted.
Open relationships are neither fully embraced nor entirely taboo; they exist in a complex space where personal choice, cultural values, and shifting social norms intersect. For some, they offer a liberating alternative to the constraints of monogamy. For others, they are an unsettling departure from the intimacy and security that comes with exclusivity.
As more people explore what love, sex, and companionship mean in the modern world, the question of whether open relationships will become a new norm remains open—much like the relationships themselves.
Diddy denied $77m bail over ‘propensity for violence’
Sean “Diddy” Combs had his $50 million ($77 million) bail request denied on Wednesday, marking the third time his bid for release has been rejected since his arrest. Combs will remain incarcerated ahead of his May 5, 2025, trial on sex-trafficking charges.
US District Judge Arun Subramanian ruled against the request, citing concerns over Combs’s potential for witness tampering and evidence of prohibited communications while in custody.
“Given the nature of the allegations in this case and the information provided by the government, the court doubts the sufficiency of any conditions that place trust in Combs and individuals in his employ—like a private security detail—to follow those conditions,” the judge wrote. “There is compelling evidence of Combs’s propensity for violence.”
Combs, 55, has pleaded not guilty to charges of using his business empire, including Bad Boy Entertainment, to sexually abuse women. Prosecutors allege he organised “freak offs” involving women and male sex workers, some of whom were transported across state lines.
Prosecutor Christine Slavik presented a 2016 hotel surveillance video showing Combs assaulting former girlfriend Casandra Ventura, known as Cassie, as evidence of his violent tendencies.
Combs’s lawyers proposed home confinement at a Manhattan apartment, monitored by private security, with strict conditions barring contact with witnesses or alleged victims.
His lawyer Marc Agnifilo said there’s a zero per cent chance of Diddy acting violently. Still, he acknowledged a past incident of violence against Cassie captured on video but argued it was unrelated to the current charges. “This was a toxic, loving 11-year relationship,” Agnifilo said.
Prosecutors said Combs violated jail policy by using other inmates’ identification numbers to make unmonitored calls. They argued this conduct underscored the risk of him tampering with witnesses.
Combs has denied wrongdoing, maintaining the sexual activity described by prosecutors was consensual.
‘Tis the season for Secret Santa—but not all gifts are created equal. Horror stories of Secret Santas in years gone by include being given a dead aloe vera plant, a rotten banana, a roll of duct tape, and even a pair of Kegel balls!
“Sometimes what seems like harmless fun can turn into an HR horror story faster than you can say ‘naughty list,’” say the experts at Indexsy.
“While Secret Santa is meant to spread holiday cheer, it’s important to remember that even during festive times, workplace rules still apply.”
So, before you buy that ‘hilarious’ gag gift, here are the real rules of workplace gifting.
1. Keep It PG, Please
Lingerie, adult toys, or anything you’d blush while buying shouldn’t end up in a workplace gift exchange.
Sure, it might get a laugh, but it’ll also get you a stern talk from HR. Let’s keep the holiday spirit… professional.
2. Hygiene Gone Wrong
Deodorant, breath mints, or acne cream might seem useful, but they also scream, “I think you need this!”
“These items feel less like thoughtful gifts and more like passive-aggressive critiques, leaving your coworker wondering if you think they stink,” says Indexsy. “No one wants their Secret Santa moment to feel like a personal intervention.”
3. Not The Time For Tough Love
Unless your colleague specifically asked for a kettlebell or a diet cookbook, these gifts can come across as a not-so-subtle way of saying, “You should work on yourself.”
Nobody wants their holiday cheer turned into a New Year’s guilt trip! Let your colleagues enjoy their holiday cookies in peace.
4. The “Wow” That Feels Weird
Buying your coworker an expensive smartwatch or designer bag might seem generous, but it can make others feel awkward or pressured to splurge next year.
Not everyone can afford to reciprocate such extravagance, and Secret Santa is about fun, not outshining the entire office.
5. The Spending Limit Matters
Speaking of price caps, don’t be that person who ignores them. If the spending limit is $20, don’t show up with a $50 bottle of wine.
Breaking the rules might seem like a flex, but it can make everyone else uncomfortable or downright annoyed.
6. The Ghosts Of Gifts Past
That unopened candle from last year or the mug with a slight chip might feel like an easy way out, but it’s a surefire way to make someone feel unappreciated.
Re-gifting is the gift that says, “I forgot about this entirely.” Secret Santa is about thoughtfulness, not clearing out your junk drawer.
7. Helpful? Maybe. Awkward? Absolutely.
Books like How to Stop Procrastinating or Five Steps To Fix Your Finances might look inspiring on the shelf but feel patronising under the tree.
“Even if your intentions are good, the effect is awkward—like you’re saying your colleague is lazy or bad with money,” says Indexsy. “Self-improvement is great, but not when it’s gifted unsolicited.”
8. Let’s Not Start A Debate
Anything involving politics, religion, or polarising celebrities or public figures is a recipe for awkwardness.
Secret Santa is meant to unite coworkers, not spark debates or awkward silences, so save the think-pieces for your book club.
9. Smells Like Trouble
Perfumes and candles are tricky territory—what might smell heavenly to you could trigger headaches—or even allergic reactions—in others.
“Scent is very personal, so it’s hard to gift unless you know for sure what they like,” says Indexsy.
10. Jokes That Don’t Land
Mocking someone’s religion, culture, or gender isn’t edgy or cute—it’s offensive. Gag gifts should be funny for everyone, not just a small subset of people who are the majority or find discomfort amusing.
If you have to ask, “Will this be taken the wrong way?” The answer is probably yes.
11. Bake With Caution
Your great-aunt’s recipe for chocolate-pepper-pickle brownies might be a family hit, but your coworkers are probably less adventurous.
Also, there’s a strong chance you could be giving your coworker something with an ingredient they don’t like – or worse, one they’re allergic to.
If you really want people to try it, bring the dish in as a gift for everyone to share rather than putting one person on the spot.
12. Gross, Not Great
Fart noise machines, fake poop, or anything involving bodily fluids might seem hilarious… to a five-year-old. Your coworkers? Not so much.
“Gifts like these are unlikely to go over well in a professional setting,” says Indexsy. “Unless your office culture is very lax, these gifts are better left in the joke shop.”
“Choosing a Secret Santa gift for a coworker doesn’t have to be a minefield. We recommend practical but creative items, like a quirky mug paired with their favourite tea or coffee, a desktop plant to brighten their workspace, or a puzzle or game. Universal crowd-pleasers like cozy socks, gourmet snacks, or fun desk accessories can also be a good call,” Indexsy commented.
“The key is to give something small that shows you’ve put in a little thought without going overboard. You can also think about things people might not splurge on for themselves but would enjoy having.
“If you’re unsure about their tastes, you have two options. You can keep it safe and stick to light-hearted, non-personal gifts, like a calendar or a gift card to a local coffee shop. Or you can ask someone who knows them better if there’s anything they’d particularly like.
“Remember, you’re aiming for a moment of joy, not a major statement. Your Secret Santa gift can say, ‘I hope this brightens your day,’ rather than ‘I know everything about you.’”
African Music Takes Over Coachella 2025: Seun Kuti, Remain and More to Perform
The lineup for Coachella 2025 has been announced, and it features an impressive array of African artists. Among the notable performers are Nigerian music sensations Rema and Seun Kuti.
Rema, known for his hit singles “Bad Commando” and “Calm Down,” has been making waves in the music industry with his unique sound and style. His performance at Coachella 2025 is highly anticipated, and fans are eagerly looking forward to seeing him take the stage.
Seun Kuti, the son of legendary musician Fela Kuti, is also set to perform at the festival. As the leader of the Afrobeat band Egypt 80, Seun Kuti has carried on his father’s legacy, blending traditional Yoruba music with modern styles.
Other African artists scheduled to perform at Coachella 2025 include Ghanaian rapper Sarkodie, South African singer Moonchild Sanelly, and Moroccan-American rapper French Montana.
The inclusion of these African artists in the Coachella 2025 lineup is a testament to the growing global recognition of African music and talent. It’s an exciting time for African music fans, and Coachella 2025 promises to be an unforgettable experience.
Coachella 2025 is scheduled to take place over two weekends in April 2025. Tickets are expected to sell out quickly, so fans are advised to act fast to secure their spot at the festival.
Davido Reflects on Life as He Turns 32: “My Eyes Don See Shege”
David Adeleke, popularly known as Davido, has taken to social media to reflect on his life as he celebrates his 32nd birthday. The award-winning singer and songwriter shared a post on his Instagram handle, stating, “My eyes don see shege,” which roughly translates to “My eyes have seen trouble” in Nigerian Pidgin.
Davido’s post has sparked a mix of reactions from his fans and followers, with many interpreting his statement as a reflection on the challenges he has faced in his life and career. Despite his success and fame, Davido has indeed experienced his fair share of controversies and setbacks over the years.
However, the singer’s statement can also be seen as a testament to his resilience and determination. Despite the obstacles he has faced, Davido has continued to thrive and grow, both personally and professionally.
As he celebrates another year of life, Davido’s fans and supporters are wishing him a happy birthday and congratulating him on his achievements. The singer’s birthday post has already garnered thousands of comments and likes, with many praising him for his honesty and vulnerability.
Davido’s 32nd birthday is certainly a milestone worth celebrating, and his reflective post has given his fans a glimpse into his life and experiences. Here’s to many more years of success, happiness, and music from the one and only Davido.
African Military Games: Yemi Alade, Olamide, D’banj to Headline Opening Ceremony
The 2024 African Military Games is set to kick off in Abuja, Nigeria, with a star-studded lineup of performances at the opening ceremony. Nigerian music icons D’banj, Yemi Alade, and Olamide will take the stage, joined by Timi Dakolo, to thrill the audience with their hits.
The Nigerian Army announced the lineup on their social media handle, generating excitement among fans and attendees. The African Military Games is a significant event that brings together military personnel from across the continent, and this year’s opening ceremony promises to be an unforgettable experience.
D’banj, known for his energetic performances, will bring his signature style to the stage. Yemi Alade, with her powerful vocals, will surely get the crowd singing along. Olamide, with his unique blend of hip-hop and Afrobeats, will keep the audience entertained. Timi Dakolo, with his soulful voice, will add a touch of class to the performances.
The performances by these Nigerian music icons will undoubtedly add to the excitement and prestige of the event. With their unique styles and hits, they’re sure to get the crowd energized and entertained.
The opening ceremony of the 2024 African Military Games promises to be an unforgettable experience, with D’banj, Yemi Alade, Olamide, and Timi Dakolo taking the stage. Don’t miss out on the excitement!
Davido Marks Birthday with N300m Donation to Orphanages
Nigerian music superstar Davido is celebrating his birthday in a remarkable way. The award-winning artist has announced that he will be donating N300 million to orphanages across Nigeria.
Davido, who turned a year older on November 21, took to his social media page to share the news with his fans. In a heartfelt post, he expressed his gratitude to God and his fans for their love and support over the years.
As part of his birthday celebration, Davido has decided to give back to the society by supporting vulnerable children in orphanages. The N300 million donation is expected to benefit several orphanages across the country, providing them with much-needed resources and support.
Davido’s philanthropic gesture has been widely praised by his fans and fellow celebrities. His commitment to giving back to the society is a testament to his kind heart and generosity.
The music star’s birthday donation is not his first philanthropic effort. Over the years, Davido has been involved in several charitable initiatives, including supporting education and healthcare projects in Nigeria.
As Davido celebrates another year of life, his fans and well-wishers are celebrating his kindness, generosity, and commitment to making a positive impact on the world.